VICTIMS & VICTORS
You love it don’t you? You love it playing the victim’s role. You subscribed with the idea that bad stuff will be defeated by good things in the end. This has been your way to feel slightly or entirely better about yourself. Because you see yourself as that one goody-goody person for always being the target of life. You build around the thought that the whole universe owes you so much because you are that one person who deserves justice for all of the pain that life has caused you. You have been so powerless to change your circumstances because life will anyway be against you. If these are true to you, then you possess a VICTIM or MARTYR COMPLEX.
According to Psychology, a person who has a victim or martyr complex desires the feeling of being a martyr for his/her own sake, seeking out suffering or persecution because it either feeds a psychological need, or a desire to avoid responsibility. In some cases, this results from the belief that the martyr has been singled out for persecution because of exceptional ability or integrity.
You may now be asking why? Why do I feel this way? You begin to feel so helpless that you were made to face the truth randomly. And here is some more truth: YOU ARE TOXIC!!! You are toxic for always wanting to get your way. You are toxic to any relationship you get into because it is always your singular way that should prevail. All because you wouldn’t stop playing the victim card until you have others feel sorry about you and/or until you get the sympathy of the majority. You are toxic for always demanding that last draw of care but you are nowhere to care for when its your turn to show it. You have been so comfortable taking the reward of not having to take responsibility of the situation. You are the hustler in going away, let alone, believing that its them not you that went overboard wrong.
STOP! Stop right there, where you are. Stop believing that you have every right to complain or to get anything you wanted. Stop luring the world with your stories in order that you rise above as a victor by playing the victim. Stop abusing others' emotion. Stop! Life is not about you nor that you are the centre of the universe.
I beseech you be truly victorious by taking the high road. Remember that you are a wonderful creation. The image of love is in you. Love is good. Love is kind. Love is flawless. Your constant struggle for power is the result of your cynicism, miseries, and self-victimisation. Life is far from perfect yeah but the good news is it is not forever. And so take responsibility of yourself by not feeling sorry about you and for focusing on what’s not good instead of what marvellous thing that have happened. You are that marvel! Life is best shared than kept. Life is meant to be cherished together.
“It's not what goes into your body that defiles you; you are defiled by what comes from your heart.” - Mark 7:15